100 dating for big people
There are no apps for girls under a certain weight, so creating something for bigger girls is basically segregating them from the norm. "SLi NK Magazine Editor Rivkie Baum told Huffington Post that Woo Plus' approach was "animalistic," adding, "I can’t help feeling that continuing to make bigger bodies into a fetish by segregating them continues to make falling in love with someone above a size 18 seem unusual."I understand every single one of their points, and for the most part, I agree wholeheartedly.
Some of Woo Plus' advertising is questionable, at best — the ad that Black highlighted in her tweet being a prime example. Could they have gone about these things far, far better? But is the actual woman's feeling in the aforementioned ad unrealistic? Because when, in this world, are fat women (and fat men, in all honesty) taught that they are just as sexually desirable as their thinner or toned counterparts?
But if anything ever happened, I'd want to be with another someone who actually loves my body. This isn't to be confused with "someone who loves me for my body," and only that.
If we don't want to be treated differently, why do we have to use different terms, or different dating sites? I personally don't think that the folks at Woo Plus believe "falling in love with someone above a size 18 [is] unusual." If that were the case, they'd be setting themselves up for failure.
But I do think that much of the rest of the world does.
A couple of years ago, I decided I'd never date anyone else who was interested in me "despite" or "regardless of" my body.
After years of humans who — no matter how kind or clever or fun they were otherwise — always seemed to have the kind of superiority complex that told them that, deep down, they were doing me a favor by dating a fat girl, I was over it.I think the reason I — and many fat women I know — have encountered a plethora of dudes ashamed of admitting their attraction to us is because they don't believe they are allowed to do so without being ridiculed.