Dating a man of lower status
Value and status are often erroneously distilled into a single attribute.
The most common definitions of high-value or high-status men is in the measure of their material wealth.
It’s just that we so often go about mistaking status for other things.
For example: the first common mistake is in how value gets defined.
Not everybody is going to be impressed by the same things; I’ve had pleasant conversations with actors, rockers and porn stars and kept my cool, but I absolutely the first time I had a chance to talk to Peter S. Penn Jillette has stated more than once that he’d rather party with rocket scientists than rock stars. Vaughn are beloved comic writers and respected names in television and film with multiple Eisner awards to their names, but if you drop them in the middle of a NBA playoffs, more people are going to flip their shit when they see Tim Duncan or Manu Ginobli walking by.I am just wondering how many other men think like this?For me, it seems plain common sense that, while professional women with masters degrees may be compatible with men in less successful professions, the guy that left school with no qualifications to work in the launderette is highly unlikely to be a good fit.My answer to you is largely the same as my answer to her. If you don’t go out with him because you intimate that you’re “above” him on the dating food chain, it’s predictable that he might lash out at you. It’s not that he’s a few pounds overweight, it’s that he’s obese. Your choice of words, however, makes you come like a stiff snob.
You may be technically correct that he’s not of your social station, but that’s of no concern to the man you’ve just insulted to his face. All of your examples are extreme, but not all men are extreme examples of anything. What I am saying — and what these men are inartfully suggesting as well — is that you don’t marry a list of traits. And if you never think outside the box, you may well find yourself standing alone at the end of the dance. Being viewed (judged) like that is the reason why many men will not even go near a woman who earns even a little bit more than he does.But it’s clearly not the end-all, be-all – after all, Ray-J isn’t exactly the last of the Red Hot Lovers despite having been propelled to momentary stardom by association with Kim Kardashian.