Dating a woman out of my league
Michael Rosenfeld, a professor of sociology at Stanford University who was not connected to this study, agreed that persistence was a good strategy.“The idea that persistence pays off makes sense to me, as the online-dating world has a wider choice set of potential mates to choose from,” he told me in an email.
Her advice: People should note those extremely low reply rates and send out more greetings.
But women’s desirability starts high at age 18 and falls throughout their lifespan.“I mean, everybody knows—and as a sociologist, it’s been shown—that older women have a harder time in the dating market.
But I hadn’t expected to see their desirability drop off from the time they’re 18 to the time they’re 65,” Bruch told me.“But I was also surprised to see how flat men’s desirability was over the age distribution,” she said. Especially in New York.”- New York is a men’s market, at least according to this particular study.
But it’s also about it being an incredibly dense market.”- Seattle is a women’s market—and also the only place where men succeed by sending longer opening messages.“Seattle presents the most unfavorable dating climate for men, with as many as two men for every woman in some segments,” the study says.
Across all four cities, men and women generally tended to send longer messages to people who were more desirable than them. But the only place it paid off—and the only people for whom it worked with statistically significant success—were men in Seattle.It’s not just that older men are considered most desirable in New York.“New York is a special case for men,” Bruch told me.