Dating party boy
You’ll commonly notice this with service staff who despite the rigidness of most Japanese systems rarely give you a hard “no” to any request.They’ll often resort to saying something like, “That would be very difficult.”On the reverse side, you won’t often know when you get a real yes.Please enable cookies on your browser and try again.
You can usually find the events by doing a Google search for Tokyo international parties, with events like this popping up regularly, but it probably won’t be long before you get invited to one via Facebook.
Two other friends started dating guys they met at English lessons. And in fact, this vagueness, or “aimai” in Japanese, is a well-studied trait in Japanese communication which is designed to be somewhat ambiguous to preserve the “wa” or harmony.
Japanese are especially uncomfortable with really assertive styles of communication and easily feel bullied, so will often seem to be saying “yes” even when they mean no.
The vast majority (upwards of 90%, I’d say) hardly have the opportunity to interact with non-Japanese unless they travel overseas.
At the same time, like folks in most other developed countries, Japanese people have been inundated with media from America and are avid travelers.Many people will even go to English Conversation schools in the hopes of making foreign friends.