Dating too busy to call
However, he was still making a big effort to see me frequently, he seemed excited about me, and there was absolutely no indication that we wouldn’t continue dating.
Until he called me one day after an especially rough week of work (working till 9 or 10 pm) and school (I hadn’t seen him at all that week) and told me that he was really sorry, but he was overwhelmed and felt like he really just needed to focus on work for the next few weeks — that I was great and, if he was at his old job, he would definitely want to date me.
I want to believe him, but I am having a hard time not taking this as he just didn’t want to pursue something with me.
— Emotional Whiplash This kind of thing happens all the time, and I think we, especially as women, make it much more difficult than it has to be because we have this sort of fairytale, rom-com idea of love and relationships where our significant other will move heaven and earth to be with us if his feelings are real and sincere. Keep your heart open and hope for better luck next time.
We started seeing each other 2-3 times a week (at his request), he introduced me to his family and friends, and, up until the last time we saw each other, we were talking about plans for a few weeks and a few months down the line.
We got along great, had so much fun, and were clearly very attracted to each other.
He is also taking a full load of graduate courses to finish his graduate degree.
Whether it’s work, yoga class, volunteer work, time with family, travel, or grad school; SOMETHING seems to be hungrily gobbling up their hours.
I felt as if all I needed was this one thing and THEN, only then could I finally commit.” This is a BIG THEME among our Introverted Alpha guys.
If you’re anything like the amazing guys we work with every day, you are smart, active, and even involved with your community. By the end of the day, they can feel too spent to muster the energy for their dating lives. Here’s how one client put it: “For me, I was always putting off meeting someone until I’ve achieved X goal.
So what becomes the chief problem when it comes to dating? What’s important to note is that many introverts use a packed schedule as an EXCUSE to avoid dating awkwardness. Once X goal was achieved, I created Y goal just to procrastinate meeting someone.I never once thought there was a moment when he wasn’t being sincere. Meeting him happened to coincide with him receiving a job offer for his dream job that he had been gunning after for the last few years.