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The 1996 comedy “Swingers” popularized the idea that cool kids must wait three days to call a date after an encounter.
But such shenanigans are now considered passé, given how we’re all constantly looking at our smartphones.
“I used to say, ‘Don’t let ideology get in the way of love,’ [but] I think when people meet other people, they want to know what their values and lifestyles are,” she says.
And once people started broaching politics, she says, other taboos, such as keeping past relationships to yourself, began to get ditched too.
“I don’t want to be with someone who’s going to play games and feel weird if I text them to say hello,” Donahue says.
Manley agrees, noting that in current times, “Someone you met on a dating app might have gone on three more dates by the time you get back to them three days later.” Forget keeping things chaste until you’re several dates in.
“[Texting] is a great way to flirt, maybe give them a taste of who you are,” says dating coach Chrisler.
Technology and new ideas about sex and gender have dramatically changed the laws of love, from who pays for dinner to how long to wait to call after a date.“Sometimes guys are afraid, too.” And with the advent of dating apps such as Bumble, which require women to make the first move to avoid online harassment, it’s not only common for women to initiate a date, it’s increasingly expected.