Gaijin dating japan
If this were a You Tube video, people might be impressed.Anyhow, Aidan had some interesting thoughts, and I'm going to reprint a portion of his e-mails to me: When I was in Japan for my college studies back then on an exchange program, I noticed many of the Japanese women I dated or were dating my peers in the exchange program merely dated us because they say us as "exotic" and because we were "gaijin" instead of us as a person.I was lucky that my girlfriend (now wife)'s parents were accepting of me, despite the pressure I felt from them and even though she talks to her parents and siblings with Skype, when they see me or talk to me, their faces have a big smile, the same smile they used among each other to signify a close family member, which makes me feel warm seeing how far we've come to terms with each other. I am tall, wide, stupid in math, and have a voice that can melt buttered popcorn (so I am told) and am good in English.However, if you plan to go to japan and date a local girl there, be mindful to not look at them as exotic, but having to remind yourself that they will look at YOU as exotic. As most of you are aware, I am a brown-skinned Canadian, born in England of parents from India. I am also a huge nerd and play all brass, woodwinds and keyboard musical instruments, but have the skill and knowledge of more than one martial art and am crazy enough to use it.
It was even nerve wrecking when I answered all of their questions and they just looked at me with uninteresting eyes with responses such as:そうだね(souda ne) - Is that rightほんと(honto) - Really This usually happens when you try to appeal to the girl's family in any country, but when it comes with a gaijin feeling to it, you feel the pressure much more.
It seems that there are far more Gaijin men dating Japanese women than Gaijin women dating Japanese guys.
Everywhere I go, I see at least more than one couple of Gaijin men/Japanese women but it's so rare to see J-men/Gaijin women couples. I mean, Are Gaijin women not so interested in dating Japanese men??
Of course, when you find the right woman, she will start to see pass the "gaijin" allure you have and start loving you as a person, but every now and then with an argument she'll pull up the gaijin card, asking me if it was because I was not Japanese that I thought that way, and whoever thinks Japanese women are always submissive has never -ever- been in an argument with one.
Never before had I witness polite speech as a way of ridiculing or intent on harm.Gaijin men aren't the only ones who want an exotic piece of arm candy... Sometimes, especially the young ones, just want to say that they have dated/screwed a foreigner.