On the other hand, if a guy had a lot of overly rosy reviews, how will we know he didn’t just put his friends, sisters, and cousins up to it?
(Remember, any girl can enter ratings.)But it’s more than the fact that ratings apps may not be as helpful to women as it seems in theory.
On Lulu, they could review them on a scale of one to ten and select any number of hashtags to describe them, including #Obsessed With His Mom, #Sleeps On The Wet Spot, and #Gone By Morning.
The good and the bad memories could be released in one fun cyber-klatch that felt more like venting to girlfriends over drinks than writing sketchy rants in Reddit groups (like the other gender has been known to do).
Lulu was marketed as the “Yelp for Men.” Why would we think it’s good to choose boyfriends the same way we choose Italian restaurants?
Yelp is great for sharing and searching out objective experiences about businesses and other professionally-related ratings.
More importantly—though perhaps less cathartic—women could read what their sisters-in-arms had to say about a potential love interest.
Men, unsurprisingly, tend to resent Lulu, and often hypocritically so, considering the ample revenge porn sites and other online groups devoted to objectifying and shaming former girlfriends via social media.
In fact, these sorts of apps have the power to make the ones seeking out reviews feel more paranoid than empowered.
But with all this in mind, there are steps you can take, things you can do to make life better right now: more meaningful, less painful, more productive.