When interracial dating goes wrong
One person told me she was “tired” of seeing black and brown people dating white people.
And I’m not alone: several black and Asian friends tell me they’ve reached a point that they feel awkward introducing their white partners.
Does dating a white person make you any less black? But it’s a complicated issue, one that British author Zadie Smith (author of ).
Smith asks Adichie to reflect upon the pleasure they both feel in the fact that US president Barack Obama married Michelle Obama, a dark-skinned black woman.
I can almost see the disappointment radiating off people who find out that my partner is white.
I was also nervous about introducing him to my Somali-Yemeni family.
It wouldn’t have surprised me if they balked: Families forbidding dating outside the clan is a story much older than .
His reply—”no, I don’t think they’d care”—filled me with dread.
And when he admitted that I’d be the first non-white woman to meet them, I almost jumped off the train.
This is a dubious argument at best, and downright dangerous in a time when the far right is smearing whole categories of black or brown men by calling them rapists and abusers.